The men Noele loved
Two Men in Her Life
There have only been two men in the life of Noele Gordon – and I was one of them. She called me her Viking and she fell in love with me. When I realised that had happened, I was shattered.
For underneath that aloof exterior is a very real woman – a warm, gentle person who is very vulnerable. She hides her emotions, like the good actress she is, but I know that deep down she would desperately like to meet her Mr Right. But, as far as I was concerned, that wasn’t me.
Her other love was Val Parnell, the impresario. She told me she lived with Val as his mistress and wanted to marry him. But sadly for Nolly – the name used by all her close friends – that was not to be. Val died at the age of 78 in 1972, the year before we met.
We came into each other’s lives when we most needed someone. We had marvellous fun socialising together, going to premieres and things like that. I felt like Prince Charming. But people often got the wrong ideas and I used to get a lot of stick.
I was only 36 when we met and some people accused me of being a gigolo, hanging around with a woman who was about 15 years older than me. There were lots of nudges and winks and suggestions that I was sleeping with Crossroads’ Meg. But I never slept with Nolly. We really were just very, very good friends. I know that Nolly yearns to have someone to go home to, especially since the death of her mother, to whom she was devoted.
Nolly once told me: “How do I marry someone who can match up to what I do?” What she meant was: “I am a big star. I am what I am.” It’s very difficult finding an ordinary man who can measure up to all that stardom means.
She really discovered me when I was appearing as an amateur actor in the musical Brigadoon, with the Worchester Operatic Society. I was asked to drive her home to Birmingham. Nolly and I clicked immediately. For me, ours was a warm friendship. It was a bombshell when I learned that she had fallen in love with me. But, looking back, I should have been more aware of her growing feelings towards me. We started dating. We enjoyed each other’s company. We’d hold hands, but there was nothing passionate.
I was attracted by Nolly’s fantastic personality. I was flattered she considered I become a professional actor – that I had the ability in me. She gave me advice and recommended I see a casting agent. When I got my Equity card, I landed a Crossroads part.
Nolly, I think, is a frustrated wife at heart. She always looked after me like a mother hen. On the other hand, she had in me a presentable escort who was capable of holding a knife and fork and paying his own way. That’s because I’m successful in the wholesale fish business. We had our laughs together. She gave me that Viking tag because I really do come from Viking stock – from Wick in the Shetlands.
Crossroads is Nolly’s life – totally. And, for me, her life has now been taken away. Our breakup came after I invited Nolly to my parents’ Ruby Wedding celebration. A little before this I had met and fallen in love with a smashing girl. Her name is Sue Evans. She is 27 and is soon to become my wife.
Nolly sensed that Sue was someone special. [She walked out of the party]. There were vibrations all around that there was a situation where two women were in love with one man – me. Nolly and I have never spoken since. I have my regrets that things ended the way they did. I would like to still be friends. I know she is desperately unhappy over leaving Crossroads. It’s been 17 years of her life. To my mind Crossroads is finished too.
Anthony Waters speaking to John Deighton, The Sunday Mail, 1981
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